Maternal Fatigue: Six Things to Help

We all get tired! Parenting is not a short road, it is not a sprint; it is a long journey, a journey of a lifetime. The job of mother does not come with an allocation of annual leave or sick days. It is 24-7, come what may. As a result it can be gruelling. We go through times when we think we cannot do it any more, where the endless stacks of laundry, dishes, hoovering, cooking, tidying seems all too much; where we don’t want to hear another child cry, or referee another fight. We are just tired. We just want a break. But family life is never so simple. Family life cannot always be planned, the way we ask employers for our 2 weeks annual leave. Family life happens. Maternal fatigue is a place I am in. It comes about in waves, but seems to be aggravated by having a 1 year old (why people focus on terrible twos, honestly it starts at 1). And although part of this journey involves gritting ones teeth, and saying “this to will pass”, there are some things to do to help: 1. A change is as Good as a Rest When there is no practical way to have some time off, change what you are doing. You will be more refreshed, and the children diverted with a change in routine. 2. Little Oases of Calm Finding times throughout the day to take yourself to a quiet part of the house. If this means putting on a DVD so be it. 3. Take a Bath Hot, relaxing, lots of bubbles! 4. Do one thing to give yourself a sense of accomplishment This is no time to spring clean the whole house. But it is easy to feel overwhelmed to the point of doing nothing. But doing something, no matter how small, but something visible, has an effect on our mental health. It may sound sad, but I believe hoovering is fantastic for mental health! 5. Arrange a Coffee Go out, either if another frazzled mama, or with some one who has no children, or who is in a different parenting stage to you. It can be good to talk about other things outside motherhood. 6. Maintain a part of you separate from motherhood We all love our children in a way that is quite all consuming. But it is healthy to maintain a hobby, or other interests that is separate from your identity as a mother. Do a course, learn a new skill, join a club. Find something that your are interested...