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Self Care as a Homeschool Mama

The days are long, but the years are short is a very wise saying that pertains to parenthood. Surviving those long days means applying wisdom, and being intentional to manage your own mental, spiritual and emotional health. Finding ways to look after yourself is an essential part of being a mother. When we become overwhelmed and burnt out, we are not able to give our children our best. This looks different at the different stages of motherhood: the demands on our time vary from when we have babies, to when we have older children. I have found some basic principals that can help our mental health as mothers: Find Your Tribe This is basically finding a source of fellowship. In the many and varied relationships we have not every person will be the right one to share life with. I find I need other home educating mothers around me to encourage and support me. They have an empathy as to what my day looks like that other friends cannot have. It’s also about finding those people who you just “click” with; those people you can share your weaknesses with and know you won’t feel condemnation, but will be supported and loved by. It’s also about having friends you can meet up with who have a depth of spiritual maturity who can encourage you to grow in faith. If this is lacking in your life, pray God will supply this need. When I first had children, I had to develop this area in my life. As a natural introvert, I found this difficult, but I have reaped the rewards of having a wonderful network of wonderful friends to do life with. Spend Time in Nature My love of nature is no secret, I truly believe God has placed within us a need to be in His creation. Walking through a beautiful wood, or hiking up a magnificent mountain revives and restores the soul. Countless studies have proven the link between time spent in nature and improvements in mental health. Rest Time There are times when the demands of life mean that “getting away from it all” simply won’t happen. But I find just being able to settle the children either in their rooms, or in front of a DVD; whilst I can go to another part of the house, alone with a cup of tea, will be enough to refresh me so I can be a happier mama for the remainder of the day. I have also made Saturday’s a “Sabbath” day, practically speaking this means I make sure Saturday...

These are a Few Of My Favourite Things

The other day I was sitting eating a pack of Tyrells Apple Crisps (as you do). On the back they had compiled an alternative 5-a-day list- like the 5 pieces of fruit or veg a day but more fun. So I thought what are the real 5-a-day: those 5 things I really really couldn’t live without… those things that really do make it possible to live life full and healthy. Cuddles from the children. Not to sound overly sentimental, but the love you receive from your children is the most precious thing there is. A hug from a little boy is medicine for a mamma’s soul. Some quiet time. Time to read and pray. This restores and refreshes, and needs to be a priority so I can be a better mummy! This is time to connect with the Almighty, as He alone is our source of life and strength. Beauty! We are hard wired to appreciate beauty. It is part of our DNA as beings created in God’s image, we to need to see His creation. This can be taking time out to experience creation, or looking at beautiful images or nature. Connection with people, fellowship, time spent with people who build you up, encourage and love you. Relationship is essential. Yes I have relationship and fellowship with the children, but other adult relationships are important, to maintain good mental and emotional health. A good supply of tea… why? Because that is just me! Share this:PrintFacebookTwitterEmailLike this:Like...

Striking a Balance

I don’t really like the term “me time”! I think having children means ultimately putting them first. Children simply need parents. They need loved, nurtured, disciplined, stimulated, they need your time. As parents we have to come to that realisation: that our desires cannot rule our lives any more. However, it is not wise to totally sacrifice oneself on the alter of motherhood. Part of being a good mother, is being a wise mother, and a wise mother ensures she is emotionally and spiritually healthy. Our children receive from where we are at, therefore we need to take care of ourselves. Therefore it is important we can find times of refreshing, where we can minister to those parts of our soul which become so wearied by motherhood. It is also important to find people to connect to who we find mutual refreshing with. For me I find myself renewed in nature. Yes I can find refreshing in nature with the children, but time alone, without noise, without demands, is like a refreshing elixir for the soul. I also have certain people, more mature ladies, who I can turn to, who I can draw strength from, and pray with. God made us to need times of rest and refreshing; he also made us to need other people. As mothers we owe it to our children to fill these parts of who we are, in what ever way is right and proper for us. Share this:PrintFacebookTwitterEmailLike this:Like...
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